Wouldnt you be very very ill as h e double hocky sticks IF?

I hear you! I too have a hubby in the construction industry, not getting paid and in the past i have been so gutted about having not $2 to buy bread yet shipping off a cheque for support. Before everyone jumps on me - I know they are his kids and his responsiblilty but its really hard to take food outta your own kids mouths to support his ex. Its hard not to feel bitter! We have shelled out support to mum and then had to give the kids money directly to pay for things that support should cover but cos hes a good dad he pays it for them so they dont miss out. Problem is I then have to work to support mine and his family. It used to put such a strain on our marriage and I was going to leave so many times. You are brave to say it cos all the ex wives go batshit if u say this **** but its hard and we can have a tantrum every now and again! Good luck!